In my opinion, singlehood is a state of life, not a vocation.
The only way it is a vocation would be if if it’s ‘consecrated’, say as a hermit or a consecrated virgin.
I’m in my mid-50s and still single. For me, it’s a combination of choice and circumstances. i never wanted to get married, and at my age (and with all the debts I have which I can’t pay), none of the ‘good’ religious Orders will even look at me.
I tend to keep to myself, anyway-not much the ‘volunteer’ type.
And the Church doesn’t say very much about us ‘ordinary’ single Catholics as a way of support, anyway. You never see anything to recognize singles the way it does with married people (World Marriage Day) and students in Catholic schools (Catholic Schools Week). It’s always about ‘families’. Not everyone has ‘organizational’ skills or runs around trying to ‘save the world’-not everyone is a ‘leader wanna-be’, in spite of all the stuff to the contrary that is said in print and from the pulpit in church.
Singlehood ‘sucks’ at times-but what can you do? You survive as best you can in this crazy, mixup and oftentimes evil world. :mad: