I work with young teenage girls, and this subject naturally comes up a lot.
Basically, the question is: in what sense can we say that there’s a very certain Mr. Right in our future? ‘The One?’
I’m not entirely positive about this one… as a long-time lurker here, I know this topic has come up a couple times, and I thought some of you might be able to help me formulate my thoughts.
To me it seems a rather fine line to walk. On the one hand, I don’t believe that God has one man for me, and if I don’t marry that specific one I’ll have an unhappy marriage. If that were the case, it would seem to rule out widows, for instance, who marry again and live as happily as they did with the first. Their cases seem to indicate that there was more than one option.
I believe that with all the many, many people in the world, there surely must be more than one man a woman could spend the rest of her life with if their love was mature and dedicated.
I don’t believe that all I have to do is sit back and wait for God to plop Mr. Right on my lap.
At the same time, however, I can’t believe that God doesn’t really care too much. With His infinite knowledge of what is best for our souls, doesn’t it seem that perhaps there is a certain man who, while not the only one, might be said to be the better one?
While typing this out I realise that it really doesn’t matter. When you meet a fellow and marriage shows up on the horizon, you ought to be praying to see God’s will clearly, not wondering if maybe you send this guy packing because there might be someone better.
But, considering that young girls seem to bring it up so much, I would like to talk it out and see if anyone had any thoughts that I could share.