There is someone I love (not a romantic love) and care about but have lost them. Tomorrow is their birthday which I had hoped to spend with them but I will never see them again. I was planning on fasting for them and offering all my prayers for them tomorrow but as I am in mortal sin is it pointless/fruitless?
As it is for someone else does God still help them or does God put it to one side until I am back in a state of grace and then help them or are they completely unhelpful because of my spiritual state? Would it be better to wait until I have been to confession and then pray and fast for them?
The whole thing confuses me.