When I attend Mass and look around, I notice the vast majority of my fellow parishioners are women, and women of all ages, young and old. The few men I do see, the majority of them are all old men, with a real scarcity of young men around my age. The alter servers, the majority of them are girls, outnumbering the boys. And the ministry staff has about 2 or 3 men, the rest are all women.
I am also currently in the process of consecrating myself to the Blessed Virgin Mary, and will make my formal consecration to Our Lady on August 15 - The Day of Assumption. Of the 8 in total making this consecration, outside our deacon who is one of the teachers of the class, there are only 2 other men, myself included. And the other man doing it is an elderly gentleman.
I was surprised to learn a lot of men feel hesitant to consecrate themselves to Our Lady because the men I spoke to said “Mary is for girls,” and shrugged. Our Blessed Mother is not just for girls - she is for everyone! Lest we forget she raised a Son - Our Lord and Savior!
Me, I am most anxious to consecrate myself to Our Blessed Mother, my relationship with her is very important, for I understand the easiest way to Jesus is through Mary, and she never stops drawing us closer and closer to Him. Just place yourself in Mary’s loving and maternal hands, and she will take you straight to Jesus. Having a living relationship with Our Lady also enriches a man’s soul. She teaches us men so many wonderful virtues and how to live as good Christians, just as she gave herself entirely to God and reflects his will perfectly. The way she loves Christ serves as a great lesson for how we should all love her Son.
For women the advice I give them is when looking for a husband is pay close attention to how your man treats his mother, this will tell you a great deal about him. Does he have a good relationship with his mother? Does he treat her with love, reverence, and respect? Or does he treat her with indifference?
Now I did a little research and to my shock I discovered my parish isn’t the only one that has a majority of women over men.
Am I imagining things here, or is there indeed a shortage of Catholic men out there? And by Catholic men, I mean practicing Catholics. If there is indeed a shortage of good Catholic men in the world, I find this trend very worrisome! What is happening to our men out there?
It seems fewer and fewer men are stepping into the breach! What is going to happen when all the old men begin to pass on?