I think I understand your point, benedictgal. Even a bar has a “community.” Remember Cheers, where “everybody knows your name and they’re always glad you came!”
Or a sports team. Or a school. Or a workplace.
So Mass should not be going to a bar without drinks, or a game without a ball, or a school without a report card, or a workplace with no paycheck.
As an ex-Protestant, I feel safe saying that some Protestant churches are falling into the trap of trying to make their churches more like friendly bars or a trip to a football stadium (lots of cheering and entertainment), or a school (lots of classes and studies), or a workplace (lots of opportunities to serve).
But church is not any of these things. It is where we receive the Lord. We shouldn’t reduce Mass to a social gathering, or over-emphasize “community” that can also be found at any of these secular gathering places.
However, Mass is meant to be a communal presence at the Sacrifice of Our Lord. Remember that even the Blessed Virgin Mary stood with the beloved John (and possibly Mary Magdalene) at the foot of the cross. She was not there alone.
I think that during Mass, we always need to be aware that all of our Christian brothers and sisters are there with us, watching the Sacrifice.
We are all in different places on our Christian journey. Some are probably “disciples in hiding”, like all the disciples other than John who were possibly standing somewhere in the crowd watching Jesus die.
Others are scoffers, in church only out of obligation to some human agency (e.g., their mother).
Some are in a state of sin and they are either in denial, or they are struggling with the Holy Spirit.
Some are children who really have only a vague concept of what is happening.
And then there are those who are close to Jesus in their daily lives and on the path to sainthood. May we all get to this place!
But we’re all there, all gathered together, all witnesses to the Holy Sacrifice.
(BTW, I love the song Gather Us In! It describes what I am trying to say.)