Having married my high school sweetheart I can see where you are coming from.
I think it's fairly natural in this day and age to feel like you missed out a little bit on going wild, and no person would really care. And although I married my high school sweetheart, we didn't marry until we were done with college. And OH BOY was the temptation there.
Attractive men around every corner. And so many quite "interested". Needless to say, I managed to stick to my relationship... and Here we are, nearly 15 years of marriage.
I think sometimes it would feel better to say... Yeah, I dated a handful of guys, and my DH is the ONLY one that did it for me. As if there was a process that I went through. Intead, I happened to get lucky at 15. I even knew then he was the man I'd marry. Turns out, I happen to get lots of things (eta: except for spelling LOL!) right the first time around... ;) And that's how I present it...
With your situation, as much of the one paragraph that I know... I would tend to think: Again, look at how blessed, Here's my wife. Who didn't find Mr. right the first time around, had a beautiful daughter... and STILL found me! We all have different paths. Some less than ideal. I realize that some would think of that as experience, which is fine. But the simple fact is, some of us don't have to get it wrong in order to recognize what's right. There's NO SHAME in that!!!
Now, I have friends that are into the try before you buy. But you know, even a car loses value the minute you drive it off the lot... Not my thing. My friends think it's a little crazy... but they also talk of admiration for what we have.
I would seriously doubt that your wife has any disrespect for you in that she is your one and only. That's quite special. And you can't help it if you got it right on your first dating attempt! :thumbsup: Some of us are just blessed that way!!! (And that's the story I'm sticking too!) Your daughter probably doesn't disrespect you... but may easily be of the young ways... "like dad, it's not like the OLDEN days... you've got to date around..."
And it's hard on girls should they feel any pressure to marry to have children in a timely manner... they may want that, but just can't find the right one... or they may NOT want that right now, and they feel like they are battling the world.
All I can say, is that my teen years were NOTHING like my dad's. My relationship with my boyfriend, now husband NOTHING like my mom and dad's... That doesn't mean I don't respect their opinions, and it certainly doesn't mean they can't teach me anything about relationships.
If you've had some self esteem issues, I'm sure it's hard, but you don't want to project your thoughts onto someone else. Your 23 y/o daughter is going to have her own opinions. Let her share them with you... you don't need to give her ANSWERS about life, just guidance to the best of your ability.
Personally, I think what a dad can do, regardless of his history, is tell his daughter that she's special. And that he expects any man she's with to treat her with respect and dignity. That she deserves it! You don't need some sort of special experience to relay that message.