Is there sorrow in heaven?


Here is a question that comes to me from time to time:
If a parent goes to heaven and their child does not, wouldn’t that parent be eternally sorrowful rather than joyful?


No. Because in Heaven he would be able to understand God, His mercy and His justice. If the child was in hell, the parent would understand that the child choose it, and that God is infinitely just.

If we reach Heaven, we will understand God’s plan, and be joyous in its perfection.

God Bless


It is so hard in our time-orientated world to image heaven. Especially when we are grounded in space and time and surrounded by people we love and experience emotions and feelings that affect us in the here and now…

In heaven, we will experience only one theological virtue and that is perfect love. It is hard for us to image what that will be like, but we will be in the full presence of our loving, merciful God and we will not experience any sorrow for those who are not there, nor will we be sad for a moment for their just punishment.

We will only experience the fullness of perfect charity and the beatific vision – which is our participation in the Divine that allows us to see and know God as He sees and knows Himself! All Knowing – All Loving – All Powerful – All Merciful! Therefore – we will know as God does.

This is always difficult to wrap our mind and heart around while on earth – it always calls us to pray for those we love every day.

Two devotions have helped me in this very situation:

  1. A 30 Day Communion Novena – Book Published by Tan Books
    The Two Divine Promises
    By: Fr. Hoppe

  2. The Green Scapular


Sorrow is the condition of life on this earth. Heaven is perfection. When we stand in His presence, along with the entire Heavenly Host and the Saints, we will be filled with such complete joy, that there is no room in us for sorrow. Our human relationships pass away, replaced by a joy that shines through us as light does through a window. There will be no darkness or sorrow in us, or around us, since His light illuminates everything. Consider this peak into the Kingdom, given by Christ Himself:

Luke 20:27-36 Some of the Sadducees, who say there is no resurrection, came to Jesus with a question. “Teacher,” they said, “Moses wrote for us that if a man’s brother dies and leaves a wife but no children, the man must marry the widow and have children for his brother. Now there were seven brothers. The first one married a woman and died childless. The second and then the third married her, and in the same way the seven died, leaving no children. Finally, the woman died too. Now then, at the resurrection whose wife will she be, since the seven were married to her?” Jesus replied, "The people of this age marry and are given in marriage. But those who are considered worthy of taking part in that age and in the resurrection from the dead will neither marry nor be given in marriage, and they can no longer die; for they are like the angels. They are God’s children, since they are children of the resurrection.

Christ’s peace be with you.


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