sorry, new here not sure if i posted in right thread
so i know theres a 6 month waiting period after getting engaged to get married
i was wondering
i myself struggle with the sin of masturbation
and my girlfriend(were getting engaged soon) struggles with impure thoughts and desires( similar to what a man goes through) because she had something very traumatic happend to her when she was younger…now we both struggle with sexual sins and our sins are similar in nature and would be fine in marriage because wed just unite the 2 selfish acts into the marital embrace(the selfess act)…and then we would no longer be sinning
i know that saint paul said "But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
also he said “if anyone is worried that he might not be acting honorably toward the virgin he is engaged to, and if his passions are too strong** and he feels he ought to marry, he should do as he wants. He is not sinning. They should get married”
so my question is(sorry if i made it confusing) would the 6 month period be shortened for a reason like this, i know one must practice self controller, but we started these sins when we were innocent and never knew they were wrong, and now were trying to get over them**