I have a real close friend of the male population that I’ve become attracted to over the past two years. We’ve known each other many years growing up in the same school up until high school. We became really close friends going into high school and are continuing to strengthen that friendship.
Freshman year, we talked some but I was really socially awkward and shy (still am but not nearly as bad :o). We had a retreat with our youth group and I was outside one evening and he came and joined me for a walk and we had a nice chat. That really sparked some emotions. We also started going to our high school plays together.
Going into sophomore year (this year), we’ve become significantly closer. Steubenville that summer we hung around each other quite a bit (he taught me swing dance :D). We started hanging out together more often, mostly with mutual friends. This school year we have started going to Mass once a week together. We talk a lot sometimes on the car ride, and sometimes we are just silently enjoying the company of each other.
All of this, Mass especially, is developing a bunch of feelings. I am really interested in getting to know him better. Researching signs of attraction, I know he is interested in me as well.
What I’m wondering is: would you consider this “dating” in the unspoken, unofficial terminology and our acknowledge of it? Is it ok to be attracted like this to everything about him at this age? I want to date him sometime but I want him to be the pursuer, what is a good way to approach such a relationship in the future?
(FYI both of us are devoted Catholics and are absolutely against premarital sex or temptations of it, clothing included and, depending for me anyways, kissing if it turns to making out and beyond) I am not rushing into any of this either and would rather approach in a healthy way like I currently think we are