is it deceptive to not mention something tha tyou know will upset someone?
for example, my mom doesn’t like people knowing where we live so she doesn’t me to accept rides from people.
she also doesn’t want me to tell people the real reason to not accept rides, she’d rather I lie because she thinks people will think it’s weird. which, it is, in all honestly. she’s just scared people will get jealous of our house or something.
sometimes i get stuck, I don’t want ot disrespect my mom because, her house, her rules.
I also don’t want to lie to friends or church acquaintances about something like this though and some people can be insistent on rides, especially if it’s dark or raining. and if I’m tired and don’t want to take the bus, well, why not if it’s on their way? also, my mom doesn’t drive, I would have ot call my dad but he works all day and is tired, I don’t want ot ask him all the time
so I let a friend from curch drive me a couple times, thought it ok because once, my parents were out of town, another time, I texted my dad to tell him and thought he would let my mom know, which usually does and sometimes, she agrees. when I got home though, found out he didn’t ask her. she asked if my dad picked me up and I said no, she then just assumed I came home on the bus and I didn’t say anything.
after that, I tried to not let people drive me anymore, I went to visit the same friend once and took the bus to her house. my mom then called and asked if the lady picked me up, which she hadn’t and then she reminded me again of her “house rule” and how I need her permission to tell people to drive me, which often, she doesn’t give. she also had a personal disagreement with this particular lady over something ridiculous so I just didn’t want the whole situation to blow up. I basically just said, yes I understand your rule and left it at that.
am I being disrespectful of my mom? am I sinning by omission by not mentioning that this happened in the past? if she finds out now, she will tell me tha ti lied to her which I didn’t do outrightly but I am letting her believe that the lady from church never drove me on her own assumption.
is it wrong to let someone believe something that is not true like this? do I just have to never accept rides again because of this crazy rule?
also, I am an adult but I still live at home, because people will usually ask how old I am
I’m just confused and feel trapped. should I just tell my mom everything and let her get angry at me?