Is this putting one self in a near occassion of mortal sin?

I came home the other day and there were some friends of ours at home. The husband is a non-practicing Catholic and his wife is a non-practicing Lutheran that I would say that are kind of atheist.
The husband (Alexis) was watching a bikini competition on TV (those lustful events, ya know) and, since I’m a teenager and nowadays lust is gloryfied, he said “Take a look at that”, and he pointed at the TV. I looked and saw it was a woman’s behind in a bikino bottom. Then I kind of laughed and looked away. Then he said that again and, since I do not want to be the Holier Than Though and not being cossidered a “*****” I looked to the screen knowing what was being displayed. Was that a sin? Would it be a venial or a mortal sin?
It’s just the damn peer pressure and that I really care what other people may think of me (I’m a teenager with pretty low self-esteem :frowning: ).
And by the way, I would like to confess this but I don’t feel gulity at all… :frowning: I’m a broken young man.

Well, why don’t you just go to confession and tell the priest exactly what you wrote?

That certainly would take care of it.

I don’t know if it was a sin, but I am sure it was not a mortal sin. The three conditions for a sin to be mortal are grave matter, full knowledge, and deliberate consent. How grave is it to briefly watch the bikini exhibition on TV? I guess that depends on its impact on you. Full knowledge? You wrote that you knew what was being displayed, but I do not think you had full knowledge of the sinful nature of it. Deliberate consent? Because you were under pressure and had conflicting goals, that is, to have pure thoughts vs. to not offend a guest, I do not think you gave it your deliberate consent.

Even so, since you are troubled by this, let your spirit be healed in the Sacrament of Reconciliation.

Willfully looking at it is definitely a sin. However ALL sins deserve the penalty of Hell. But if you’ve genuinely accepted Jesus as your Savior AND Lord, Jesus died for that sin too, & it forgiveable. However, you should still confess that sin to God as well & ask Jesus to forgive you, demonstrating that are a true child of God & are genuinely remorseful - and He will forgive you. The only “unpardonable sin” is the blaspheme of the Holy Spirit, attributing the saving power of Jesus to Satan, which in the Church age is rejecting that Christ is the only way the Father (John 14:6), & attributing His saving power to something (or someone) else, which is satanic. Scripturally, there is no distinction between a “mortal” & “venial” sin. ALL sins condemn, but only one condemns without forgiveness.

If you consider looking at a woman in a bikini a “sin,” I hope you don’t live near the beach like I do. You would have to wear a blindfold all day in the summer!

Just mention it to a priest. But I want to focus on something you wrote.

Then he said that again and, since I do not want to be the Holier Than Though and not being cossidered a “*****”

You do not want to be Holier than thou? That is your reasoning? Not, I want to be an example and lead others in the way of Holiness? Listen son, you ARE called to be Holy. Period. And you should have the love of your Lord who died on the Cross in you to help you overcome this idea that you are weaker than someone else and therefore must submit to sin so as not to appear “holier than Thou” I know you are a teen but now is the time to develop this way of thinking.

It’s just the damn peer pressure and that I really care what other people may think of me (I’m a teenager with pretty low self-esteem :frowning: ).

yes, and you are young. And in the sceme of things this is not a huge deal. But it is a time where you need to realize that no matter your self esteem (whatever that means) you choose to stand for the Good. How is your self esteem since you caved in?

And by the way, I would like to confess this but I don’t feel gulity at all… :frowning: I’m a broken young man.

You don’t feel guilty AT ALL? Then I would say that you have bigger problems than what took place.
Did what you do make your God on the Cross proud? Was it Holy?

I don’t even think it is that big of a deal. I would even doubt the mortal nature of it. But I am way more concerned about the thought process in which you justify it. And how to fix that so that when real issues come up (and they will) you find yourself a righteous man of God in which God can say he is well pleased.

In the circumstances you describe… no you didn’t sin. The husband sounds like a bit of an ignorant jerk for encouraging you to look and putting you in that position but it doesn’t sound like something you would have deliberately done yourself. ie. ogling at a bikini competition.

Glancing like that doesn’t constitute sin unless you take it further and dwell on it for lustful reasons.

It looks like you live in tropical Argentina where bikini bodies are fairly normal. I live in a tropical part of Australia so I know the culture of beach life too. It’s just important to keep yourself in check and not head down that lustful ogling route. Once young men move onto looking at porn and that kind of thing, they seem to get helplessly addicted as far as I can tell by the number of threads here dealing with it.

Lol, “tropical Argentina”, never heard it but I like it :slight_smile: . Where I live there is no beach to go but we do be in summer and we do have beaches “close” (200-400 km).
Maybe because it’s not a sin I didn’t feel guilty.

By “looking” I’m not referring to looking in the direction of someone who crosses your line of sight who is wearing a bikini. I was referring to willfully looking at someone with a bikini on, in order to satisfy a lustful desire. Sorry if that caused any confusion.

Giving into human respect is a sin. And looking at impure images is a sin. Please speak with a traditional priest for more help with these issues. God bless you.

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