[quote="doanli, post:1, topic:244219"]
I am trying to live a 100% Christian holy life.
Today, my ex sent me a request on Facebook to "friend" him. I immediately blocked him.
He caused me a lot of pain and suffering that he has never apologized for. It was an abusive relationship and I am afraid of him. I'm already scared he knows my married name now and I'm afraid he knows where I live.
I have been working on forgiving him and others....I forgive him because I love Jesus but do I have to talk to him?
I just don't want to have anything to do with him because that is a part of my life that I am not proud of at all. I cannot communicate with him even if I wanted to.
My stomach is churning.
Am I doing the right thing by completely ignoring him? I don't trust him whatsoever, even after all of these years.
How are your privacy settings on FB? Did he learn where you are from being able to see your info? Set everything to either "Friends of Friends" or "just friends" or even "just me." You have to do this, I hope you did it before he found your location. There is a risk to being "out" on Facebook, if you have people you do not want to find you. But if you are only "seen" to people you have already friended, you should be safe. Just make sure you don't have anyone he knows on your friends list either. Do NOT show your wall or info to everyone. NOTHING on your FB page should be visible to everyone on FB.
I think there are scrubbing services you can pay for, that will go to sites where you have left a trail, and remove them, but I don't know how much this costs. Abusers are nothing to toy with. Please be careful.