[quote="stephanie007, post:8, topic:212727"]
I'm not a parent of a gay child, but I do have experience being the gay child, so maybe I can help a parent who was in the same place my mum was.
Before saying anything to him about his boyfriend, think for a day or two about what you're looking to accomplish with this conversation. If you're "concerned for his soul" (I have to be honest, I really have no clue what you're trying to get at there), do you want him to break up with his boyfriend and renounce being gay? Or do you just not want his boyfriend and any future husband to come to Christmas and Thanksgiving dinners at your house? If he's coming out, as an adult, to a parent with whom he is very close to that he knows is a devout member of a religion that has a shoddy history regarding the acceptance of gay people, it's not a phase. I promise you, he has considered quite a bit whether or not you'd disown him or go off on a fanatical verbal rampage. If he hasn't been out (to the rest of the world, not just you; parents are often the last to be told because they matter the most) for very long, you need to be especially careful about everything you ever say about him about gay rights, famous gay people, and really, anything related to homosexuality at all. We're a lot more sensitive to these things than we give away to our straight family members. Avoid using the word homosexuality too- it feels long and judgemental and creates more barriers than its surface neutrality would lead one to believe. Honestly, I'd just recommend you not say anything to him unless he wants to initiate a conversation about it with you. I'd be curious to know what you're initial reaction to his coming out was; that has a tendency to form a very lasting impression about a person's acceptance of the gay individual in question. But I almost guarantee he would think it's really sweet if you told him you'd read some PFLAG literature and wanted to chat about whatever adorable thing his boyfriend did last weekend... if you're ready for that.
So, uh, sorry for the big block of text there from someone who doesn't know too much about Catholicism or Catholic culture. The big picture is that your son needs to know that you still love and accept him- no matter who he is or who he loves. And don't yell or get political. Never yell.
There are so many things wrong here. You are using the term homosexuality but then telling the parent not to use it? And all of a sudden talking about homosexuals is off limits, even though the "rights" crowd is always propping up any homosexual celebrity or figure they can find? That doesn't seem to sensitive to me. A Catholic parent can continue to support their homosexual child without having to embrace ideals which are contrary to our faith such as talking about adorable things he did with his boyfriend.
Now don't get me wrong, I'm not taking cmscms's approach, but your post left me confused.