Hello, I know i have posted in a while, apologies.
My best friends daughter, Abby, is like a daughter, or at least a very close niece to me. We were close all of her youth as her mother and father were both shift workers, so she was at my house many afternoons and at least one night a week. She is a lovely girl, perhaps a little spoilt (She is an only child, after all) but well loved by everyone around her and has a healthy relationship with both of her parents.
She moved away to college and further education 9 years ago and attained a degree in Microbiology. She then travelled for a bit and has finally settled down in New York (She is 28 this year, I believe) She is now rather succesful and came home to visit us this summer.
And what a surprise she brought with her.
It appears she has found a life partner in another woman named Shelby. They live together in New York and have planned their civil ceremony. The sad thing is, despite the churches teachings, which i do hold dear, i really do, i can't find fault in their relationship.
Shelby is a highschool teacher from an English family, and has manners and grace so uncommon in this time and place. She was absolutely delightful to talk to, and not at all standoffish or any of the other things you'd expect of a lesbian in an openly Catholic home. Abby, too is a very accomplished young lady, and confided in me that she only kept it a secret so long (apparently she has known she was gay since she was 12 or so and has been with Shelby since she was 24) because she knew it made me uncomfortable. It makes sense, she has never shown interest in men, but i always thought she was just being unduly modest.
Honestly, I don't know how to react. On the one hand i've always been taught it was wrong to be in a relationship with a person of the same sex, and on the other hand, these 2 women honestly seem to respect eachother, love eachother and make eachother honestly, lastingly (and not just fleetingly) happy.
What should I do? How should I react? Abby's Mum and Dad are aware with it, and while it took them time to adjust, they are quite relaxed about it and accepting.