I admit that I sometimes use my husband as an excuse for something I want to get out of doing, but that’s not what this is about.
Jeffrey R. Jackson has written an article “THE RISE OF “DOMESTIC DIVAS” It’s Always the Man’s Fault” for the New Oxford Review which, IMO, is quite insightful.
“…women of recent generations have been brought up to “empower” and “assert” themselves against our “patriarchy,” from which they strive to be independent by adopting masculine, competitive ways. At the same time, the men of these same generations have been raised to be less assertive and more sensitive – in other words, feminized – all in the interest of achieving “gender balance” or equality. As we are all aware, society has not been the same since.”
The “domestic divas” he refers to are women who, usually with prefessional qualifications, choose to stay at home with the children while the husband provides.
The only thing wrong with this, the article says, is that these stay-home women want a nanny and a cleaning service. The do not ‘submit’ to their husband and expect to have her cake and eat it too.
The article refers to the ‘feminisation of Catholicism’ and the prevalence of divirce and annullments, which, he says, could be avoided by priests toughening the requirements for pre-marital counselling.
I definitely see his point. In fact, I have read quite a bit of stuff lately written by angry men who advocate not marrying or entering into cohabitation arrangements, to avoid being taken to the cleaners by women.
The time has more than come for Catholic women to start a counter-revolution to affirm our fathers, husbands and sons.