[quote="Apryl, post:16, topic:196930"]
I agree that seven years is a LONG time to date and not be married.:eek:
Church? That's just an excuse.:rolleyes:
I say: If you don't want to marry, DON'T. I think it messes the balance of the world up if you've dated this long, and established your lives together this way and then marry. One of you is bound to think that 'marriage' means something more than the other does.:mad:
You aren't married? Why get married? If it means nothing to you, why do it? Just asking.. not looking for an answer.:)
I never said marriage means nothing to me; I said that I didn't used to want to get married. Watching it happen to my friends has begun to spark my interest.
Really guys, it's not a question of love. I love him with everything that I am. We live 2500 miles away right now, and every time we part, the only thing that gets me through is his random texts counting down the days until we see eachother again. People seem to think because we've been dating 7 years, I'm obviously not truly in love with him, but there's a difference between a 24 year old who has been in a relationship for 7 years and a 40 year old. When would have been an appropriate time to marry him? When I had been dating him for 2 years and I was a junior in college? I was barely mature enough to pay rent and bills, let alone share my life completely with him.
I'm really not using the Church as an excuse. If I wanted to make up an excuse, I would say that we live too far apart, that I need to finish school, that he needs to find a place of his own instead of living with a roommate... there are far more plausible 'I don't want to marry so I'll make up alternative reasons' excuses than the concern of a Catholic vs secular wedding.