It’s with great sorrow and shame in my heart i come to you like this on my initial post.
As the title says I’ve fallen in love with a married woman. NOTHING has happened. I’m resolved not to allow it. It’s quite easy for us to avoid being alone and only meet in a group atmosphere as much privacy we ever have is emails where we had instituted a dialogue.
My stock email to her is stay with your husband! Give him a chance, give him a kiss and tell him you love him! They are struggling and got married under in opportune circumstances. It appears he lied about many things. She was alcoholic and drug addicted, now clean. He seems to have control of his habits. Neither Catholics, married in Las Vegas… 4 children…
I on the other hand am a devout Catholic…I thought. I attend Mass everyday, pray Roosary, Liturgy of the Hours. Not long ago I felt a pull to be a monk. I’m 47 she 33.
Speaking with the parish priest he says" just say no!" Not working…
Here’s the deal though. I feel as though I have prayed away any lust so far. Feeling were stronger a week or so back. But I still feel a love for her. I know IF I love her and I do I MUST respect her vows and my own (I’m Consecrated to Mary!) I’ve explained all this to her and we so far are respecting each other boundaries.
But why am I in love with a married woman!? Is it ok to love her if I respect her and NEVER touch her or lust after her? All that seems alright all seems in Gods hands except my love and While I don’t mind the broken heart the denial of it doesn’t make any difference. I only get a little peace when I accept it.
Am I sinning by loving her with no passion or lust or attempting to have her for more than a friend?
One good thing, I’m moving 1000 miles away in a couple weeks so it appears I must only with hold that much longer but what about next time? I feel on one had dirty but on the other blessed to have a love.
very conflicted and sad… please help with more than “just say no”…although i can’t imagine what it could be.