Once again, I apologize if this question is in the wrong forum. I still feel like a new kid, in a new school, and I can’t find my way to the cafeteria yet (it’s always about the cafeteria, isn’t it? :D)
So, here’s my issue: My husband and I have had an unprecedented number of really terrible things happen to us over the past four years. In fact, there have been so many trials so regularly, that everyone who knows us, or has even heard of us, is sitting up and taking notice. I’m going to write a list (abridged, and as brief as possible), in an effort to support my claim:
–My husband was thrown from a car (he’s a cop, and was chasing a criminal; he leaped into the man’s car through the window; the suspect pressed the accelerator, and manged to throw my husband in the road, as he swerved around a corner.) Result: a spinal fusion for my husband.
–I had surgery, that developed complications; resulting in extreme, unrelenting pain for days. Morphine did nothing to alleviate the pain.
–my husband attempted to clean up a corrupt division in his police department. result: the people in question colluded to have him ousted…and it almost worked; Divine intervention brought the truth to light, but it was a terrible, frightening time.
–my husband developed a heart condition. He had one ablation that didn’t work.
–my husband had his second ablation 18 months ago, and the doctors botched the surgery. They punctured his aorta. He coded. He was resuscitated, but he had to use months of sick leave before he was strong enough to return to work. Chances of this happening: 1/1,000.
–I developed a fairly large tumor on my rib; result: I had to have the rib amputated. It was by far the worst pain I’ve ever known in my life (and I’ve had two children).
–my husband contracted a rare mycobacterial infection from fishing in the ocean. It has caused pain, and additional med. problems which are only now clearing up.
–my husband developed a severe case of pneumonia, but the x-ray showed some additional problems, and he began having difficulty breathing (I’m up to last Nov. '08 btw).
–my husband begins to have significant problems breathing. He ends up in Shock Trauma for Christmas through New Year’s, and beyond. Result: the punctured aorta that happened during the second ablation, allowed blood to leak into his pleural cavity. His body built scar tissue around his lung in response to the blood, and was strangling/choking his entire lung. He had to have major surgery to repair/disentangle the lung. He was in ICU for awhile, and then on a reg. floor for a few more weeks. Result: my husband has permanently lost 1/3 of his lung function (but he kept on working…you have to know my husband). Chances of this condition occurring: 1/1,000
-I develop some female issues, and have more surgery around Easter. More complications; more extreme pain.
–May, '09–my husband becomes violently ill. He beings throwing up, and starts complaining of extreme shortness of breath. He tries to wait it out for a few days, but we finally ended up in the ER. It turned out that he was in multi-system organ failure, due to gangrene that had completely eaten up his gall bladder. Worse…the sepsis had spread to his liver, kidneys and intestines. It turned out that he only had a 40% chance of survival…and after emergency surgery, a stint on the ventilator and ICU…he survived, and turned the corner on St. Rita’s feast day. The surgeon said he had never seen anything like it in his 20-year career. Chances of a condition like this: 1/1.000
–I had yet another surgery two weeks later. (But this one wasn’t as bad as the others.)
Think that’s it yet? No!
–Suddenly 10 days ago, my husband had an intense pain behind his right eye, and 24 hours later, he lost the sight in that same eye. After a flurry of doctors and specialists we discovered he had optic neuritis a fairly rare condition, that is usually the harbinger of MS. He started his IV steroids today…prognosis is, that he will get his sight back…in the next 3-12 months. He has a 1/4 chance of developing MS over the next two+ years.
And no, hes’ not working. He’s on extended sick leave.
Okay, if you took the time to read that, you can see that my husband has born the larger crosses throughout this journey. We have prayed, cried, prayed, and stormed the gates of heaven with sacrifice and prayer. We have never despaired, always grateful for our faith and our Beneficent Father in Heaven! And, as I’ve said so often, especially as of late, I no longer ask God why, because something larger than me or my husband is clearly going on here.
And then,…I got a well-meaning email from a friend of mine. She wanted me to consider the possibility that my husband and I (especially my husband) had a curse on us.
At first, I sortof chuckled, and then I thought I should at least ask the opinions of others regarding this matter. I have been identifying with Job (and even plotting our course along with Job’s trials, so that I can see how much longer we have before restoration! . ). And this begs the question…when is it a trial, a blessing, redemptive suffering, an expiation…a demonic attack…or a curse?
I’ve been in deep thought and prayer over this, ever since. I really need some opinions. Ultimately, I know our Father has this all under control, but I think this is something I should at least examine, in an effort to know what my response should be.
I suppose I’ve rattled on quite enough. Thanks for reading my saga…