My colleagues and I were talking about ‘states of grace’ and who is able to receive Holy Communion and who should not be teaching or leading in the Mass or even representing the Catholic Church. This is sensitive topic and so I later spoke to my parish priest about it.
In a week day Mass, we had a lady who was visiting with a friend receive Holy Communion. Upon receiving the Communion, my priest instinctively knew that she was not Catholic. He could not do anything about it then, but after Mass he spoke to her and told her that he will willing to give her communion after she received RCIA training. He spoke to her privately. Now, as someone bringing a non-Catholic to Mass, I feel it is imperative that we tell them what they can and cannot do. I was pleased to see the lady is still coming to Mass and she receives a blessing - instead of Communion.
Are we brave enough to nicely inform our non-Catholic guests about receiving Communion?
Now, for those of us who are living in compromised situations… with a boyfriend or girlfriend, as a homosexual, or even divorced and remarried without an annulment. or who are involved in some impropriety of any sort - we know that they should not go to Communion. Those of us who know better, and the priest does not - what do we do? Who are we to judge?
Well, in a similar situation - my friends and I who were talking decided to confront a colleague about her situation. We told her that she had to deal with it - on several grounds. She seemed to take no offense. We did not gang up on her, but because persons like her have been gravely hurt in situations like hers. We planted the seed for her think about regularizing her life and getting back in full-communion with the church. Nothing is impossible with God. At times, people need to be encouraged to do what they know is right.
How do you all deal with such situations in your schools and parishes? I will speak to my priest about this today. We do not want to chase people away from church, but when the occasion arises, we must speak up.