Welcome home and thanks for your service to us all. I will say that I am happy to hear that you have not even up on your marriage even though your wife has. Good for you. I will tell you of a story to give you hope that it is possible for your wife’s heart to soften and your marriage heal.
We have friends that had been married for about 15 to 16 years. They have four children, ages 5-12. The dad, more of a friend to us, than the mom, was into pornography and this riped apart the trust that was left in their marriage. She got upset one day when she caught him watching the videos and threw him out of the house. They had other marital problems, but he opening talked about this one particular fault and sin for he wanted his friends to pray for that specifically. They were separated for about a year, but he came over every morning to eat breakfast with the kids, who were homeschooled, and help out. He was there in the evening babysitting at times while his wife went out. He didn’t like this, but he wanted to win her over and bent over backwards to do whatever she wanted. He asked for prayers from family and friends. I remember running into his wife when they were separated and she talked about him as if she hated his guts. I didn’t think they had much hope, but I continued to pray anyway for nothing is impossible with God. Little did our friend know that she was filing for divorce and was going to have him served, when he asked her one last request. They went on this marriage weekend and she cried and cried. They had to stay in the same hotel room, but slept on separate beds. By the end of that weekend, she did not want the divorce anymore and promised to work on their marriage with him. That was about three years ago and they look so happy now and in fact she got pregnant again, but unfortunately had a miscarriage. There marriage is so much improved. They were at the doors of a divorce, and God heard all those prayers and softened her heart. Let me telll you it was not easy for the man, our friend, for he said he had to humble himself so much. He said he was very selfish and he became selfless. His brothers all told him that it was hopeless and to give up and he refused. He was always there for his children on a daily basis.
You will be in my prayers and I know that if you are ready for battle, your will need all the weapons you can use to win. Please pick up the Rosary, if you don’t pray it already. It is a powerful weapon against evil and the evil one wants you two to get a divorce. My friend went to many Holy Hours and this helped him in his daily conversion. He also went to frequent confession and signed up in a group for his specific problem.
God Bless you and I will pray for you in my daily Rosary. I too believe in St. Rita’s powerful intercession and St. Anne’s, Jesus’ grandmother and of course, Our Mother Mary.