I’m not sure where to post this, so I hope this is the right place. I could use some advice on weather I made the right decision on ending a certain friendship I had. To clear things up, I am female freshman in college.
This summer, I met a girl at a convention. I will call her “H.” The two of us had a lot in common, we spent the whole day together, and exchanged numbers when it was time to leave. It turned out that she lived only a couple of miles away from my house. I was very excited to have made a new friend who had a lot in common with me. About a week later, we got together at the mall, and then went to her house. We had a great time, we had lunch at the mall, and watched movies at her house.
We got together at least twice a week for about a month, and she seemed very cool. The only thing that I learned about her that seemed strange was that she was 25 and lived in her mom’s basement. She didn’t go to college, and she no longer had a job. She also dressed like a 12 year old. I thought this was strange, but I gave her the benefit of the doubt because we had become good friends.
After knowing her for a month, my boyfriend’s friend from college invited us to come to the beach with him. Since the beach is about 2 hours away from my house, my mom insisted that I brought a friend with me. I invited H.
My boyfriend picked up H and I at 5 am so we would have plenty of time at the beach. H was fine at first, but after a while, she started to really get on our nerves. She had brought with her a book about Lizzie Borden (a women from the 1880s who apparently axed her parents to death). She kept talking about Lizzie Borden the whole way there. When we got to my boyfriend’s friend’s house, she continued to talk about the murderess. She would not stop talking about it the whole time we were at the beach either. She wined and complained if she didn’t get her way, and barely gave me any time to talk to my boyfriend.Every conversation had to be all about her, or Lizzie Borden. I could tell everyone was getting really annoyed and stressed out. When we were on our way home, it was getting dark. She continued to make jokes about Lizzie Borden, songs about Lizzie Borden, fantasies about Lizzie Borden. It was starting to freak me out.
That next week, we went to a living museum. The exhibits were mostly from the time that Lizzie Borden was around. Needless to say, it was not the best place to be with her. The whole day she acted very immaturely, fought with her mother over stupid things, and said and did little things to put me down. She made so many references to Lizzie Borden. They had a gift shop, and she even asked the workers at the store if there was any dresses from the 1880s because she wanted to dress up like Lizzie Borden. She wanted me to dress up like Lizzie Borden’s sister Emma. She didn’t find any dresses for that, thank goodness, and we went back to her house. I was really wanting to go home at that point. We were in her room in the basement and she said she wanted to reenact Lizzie Borden with me. I was really getting creeped out, so I told her that I thought it was time for me to go home because I had to take my sister somewhere (which was true). She was so angry she was shaking, and refused to bring me home. I texted my mom and told her to come and pick me up ASAP, and she did, just in time.
After that day, I explained to my family what had happened. Both my family and my boyfriend encouraged me to cut all forms of contact with H. I felt so terrible for doing it, but I blocked her on Facebook and on my phone. I felt bad because I knew I was the only friend she had, but I just didn’t feel safe around her anymore. The next day, my boyfriend blocked her as well, but before he did he read her status update where she said that she thought I was jealous of her. I was not by any means.
So I just want to know, did I do the right thing as a Catholic? If I didn’t, how could I fix it? It’s been two months since I cut contact with her, but I still feel bad about it sometimes. I don’t miss her, but I hope I didn’t hurt her.