So, my best friend and her husband have been my husband and I’s friends for years. We hang out often (three to four times a week) and live very close to each other now.
Last Night, I was over at their house for our usual sunday evening get together, and I asked the husband if I could use his computer to check my email. He said sure, and when the screen came on, it was full of websites about swingers, and meeting people for hook ups, and an advice thread about how to get a married couple to swing with you.
I was shocked, minimized those websites, opened a new browser window, and checked my email. My husband and I left soon afterward.
My friends are agnostic, so it’s not like they have any religious compunctions regarding the sanctity of marriage. My husband thinks I’m overreacting, but I’m worried, and freaking out a little bit about it. I have been sexually abused in the past, and I felt “safe” around them because they’re married, which in my mind, meant, they wouldn’t attempt anything of a sexual nature with me. Now, I know that they have no qualms having relations with married people, and are actively pursuing it. It makes me feel anxious about being around them.
Does anyone have any advice about how to not be anxious about this? Or what I should do, or say?