Last night I received an email from my advocate giving me 4 options for my pending case. At the bottom was a side note that the Judge Advocate appointed to the case was leaving at the end of next week and they are interviewing for a replacement. It wouldn’t be so bad but this will be the 4th Judge instructor to work on my case. Last time it took over 4 months to get the next official Judge advocate appointed and they had another one ‘advising’ my advocate on my case for the interm.
The case is reaching nearly 23 months since it was submitted.
Options are: submit to a personality questionnare to be reviewed by a psych, re-interview witnesses (who were originally interviewed about 20 months ago), travel to the tribunal office for a face-to-face interview (I have moved during the last 4 months so the trip would be over 600mi one-way), withdraw the case.
I am probably going to end up withdrawing the case and restarting in the Diocese I’m currently living in. I hate the thought that I believed in the process and it seems to have failed terribly. I feel misled and deceived by the people involved. My life has been on hold waiting for an outcome on this and I am so close to just giving up.
Worst of all, I feel guilty for feeling this way. I know it’s the right thing to do and that I’m jeopardizing my soul if I pursue a marriage outside of the Church, even though I truly believe that the first marriage was not a true one. I wasn’t even Catholic at the time so my view on marriage wasn’t in line with the Church.
I have consulted a priest from my current Diocese. He had the local tribunal contact the one handling the case and was told it was proceding well and that the information was nearly complete. He initially told me to stick with the process, now with the new information, he’s advising me to pull the case and start over too.
Sorry for the vent.
Thanks for listening.