[quote=piety101]OK all my Catholic sisters and brothers
Next question- Should we really be EXPLICIT about our sins? I mean should we go into graphic detail with our priest? Say I was a lesbian or a homosexual and got it on with the same sex umpteen times. Or if I was into incest or masterbated twenty times a week? Or if I was a wife beater or was on crack. Do you really go into detail on all this?
At my first BIG confession, before being confirmed I said I was into bad sexual immorality in my life and stuff like that, but I never went into detail. No one ever explained to me just "how do you say it" to your priest? Besides some of the stuff I did I would be embarrassed before him. Did you go into detail or do you still go into detail during confession? Thanks. I await your replies.
You should be clear about your sin, but you don’t have to give play by play. If you had sex outside of marriage, say “I had sex out side of marriage” that is pretty simple and painless. It is also recommended that you say the number of times you committed the sin. If you had sex 2 times since your last confession, say that. If you had sex 35 times since your last confession… you probably lost count I would think so same something along the lines of how many times a week on average you did. That isn’t graphic detail, that is just frequency. This will help the preist give you better advice. If you really can’t remember the number don’t worry, you won’t be held accountable for something you can’t remember.
Keeping track of the frequency helps you become aware of how bad your problems with that particular sin really are, and you are less likely to commit it as often. Much like counting calories helps people not eat as much then if they just try to cut back without keeping track.