Kidnapping survivor Smart says porn made ordeal even worse


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sfgate.com/news/crime/article/Elizabeth-Smart-says-porn-made-kidnapping-ordeal-9174831.php


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What a horrifying ordeal to go through. The evils of pornography are endless. May God bless this young woman as she copes with the kidnapping and ordeal she went through. May God grant her healing and peace.’

Let us pray for an end to pornography.

Mary.


#3

God bless her for her perseverance. I understand that porn hits the same receptors as illegal drugs. Thus, an addiction develops. I do pray for an end.


#4

In one of my prayer groups, they said that the same neurotransmitters are generated by it as in the use of cocaine. So, as with cocaine, a compulsive need is built up. But unlike cocaine and opioids, there is no way out except “cold turkey.”

ICXC NIKA


#5

Read the comments section after this article. Just unbelievable how many are defending porn and slamming religion. “Religion made him do it” seems to be the theme:eek:


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Yes, I could not believe how many comments were slamming religion, sadly I think our world is closer to making religion illegal versus restricting porn in anyway.


#7

I believe Smart’s account, and I can certainly think of other sex offenders who used porn, Ted Bundy comes to mind. But, I think to be fair, we should acknowledge that the vast majority of porn users do NOT kidnap young girls and force them into “marriage” or commit other sex crimes.


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This is all so sad and it started when her father invited this man to their home. That should be the lesson for everyone, do not bring an unknown man to your home when you have a pretty daughter there. As for the porn, this is not an excuse. Rapes have been happening since the beginning of time and what you had here was a hateful vile rapist who would have done the deed no matter what.


#9

Porn makes a lot more money.

And thought of as a drug, it makes perfect sense. Think of the frantic masses who want marijuana legalized. Porn is already legal, and those inconsiderate holy-joes want to stop the masses from getting their needed fix!

ICXC NIKA


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I saw this and thought I would comment and add the link:

ncregister.com/daily-news/the-politics-of-pornography

It is great the ability of one to come out of horrific situations of evil, and be able to get back to living your life. For me that’s one of the things that tells you that the soul and spirit are the ones that give “life”, in the sense that a person can withstand many things physically and emotionally, and be able to get out of them on top.

Now talking about the porn issue, it is logical, for me, the outcome that the use of porn creates, as a bad thing will bring more things that are bad, it cannot make things better, or bring good things (cannot give good fruits). Something that has pleasure as its north, will always be about egoism (And egoism has no place for others, but just “me”).

“24 Strive to enter through the narrow gate, for many, I tell you, will attempt to enter but will not be strong enough.” Luke 13, 24

Pleasures will defeat the will, if we let our body state what it wants. If the stimulus is distorted (by desiring it too much or “thinking” it brings too much pleasure (and that we need it) and therefore acting towards it) everything will be distorted (as pleasure is starting to take the reins), and we will be slaves of it. Our actions should always be analyzed by love, as its pure essence does no evil following scripture (therefore it does no harm). If a “stimulus” can be easily “abused”, actions “against it” (so that it doesn’t control us) are a must, if not pleasure will defeat the will, for the will already has made a decision in favor of it (to some sense).

This is one of the main reasons that we need to know that pleasure is not love, nor happiness (God is love and the one that brings happiness by His way).

The only way to love and show tenderness (that tenderness that Karol Wojtyla talks about in his book “Love and Responsibility”) is by loving and following loves way, self denial and the cross, and not about “winning the world” (its pleasures).

That’s why detachment plays a major roll, in which it is ability, states, where we have our treasures, as there we will find our hearts, and so, we can’t have two masters, for we are either are slaves of sins or of Righteousness (meaning God).

We need to remember and tell others to remember (especially kids, these days, in this culture, where sex is entering very early and fomented in some schools), that pornography is bad, and a bad thing cannot bring goodness. This needs to be understood as even if we understand it, pleasure has such a force, that it will try to make us fall. That’s why we need to strengthen our spirituality as that is the only way God will move in us and help us battle the spiritual warfare.

Pornography “covers our eyes” and entices us to see it as something good, because it “brings pleasure” (supposedly), but what it does, is that it destroys our sensibilities to follow love (charity, the cross, sacrifice) and therefore to love others like we love ourselves. We start to see persons as “bodies” (for our enjoyment) and not as persons, where its inner part (soul and spirit) is what matters first, and “they” correct the way we see the body (in the sense that, in the means we truly acknowledge that the person has a soul and spirit we are “accepting” God).

I like this next paragraph that I found a while ago:

“When you love like Gods love, you care so much, that you will protect the other against your own “I”, the satisfaction at the expense of the other is not even an option. It’s like when you get a burn on a finger. That burn, or this hurting, makes the protecting of the finger (so that it doesn’t hurt) a priority, in a similar way, love always makes you protect, affirming the value of the person in the process, because of the simple fact that love makes you care for the person the way God wants you to care for them (Like He cares for them). Because love is of God, for God is love.”


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I was not going to add this, but I thought that because I mentioned it I should.

***Something about tenderness from “Love and Responsibility”:

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“Accordingly, it is necessary to call for even greater responsibility in granting a woman and a man the “right to tenderness”, both with regard to receiving as well as showing it. A tendency certainly exists – especially in some people— to widen these rights, to take premature advantage of them, while we are presented in both persons merely with the arousal of affectivity and sensuality with it, yet the objective profile of love and the union of persons are still missing. This premature tenderness in interaction between X and Y at times even destroys love or at least does not allow it to be developed in full, in all its interior as well as objective truth…

Without the virtue of temperance, without chastity and self mastery, it is impossible to educate and develop tenderness in man, so that it does not hinder love but serves it. For a serious danger occurs of some shallow, superficial lived experience of love and at the same time its “consumption” (i.e., using up the material from which love is formed in a woman and a man). Within limits of such lived experience both persons will fail in the effort to reach love’s objective profile and the proper good, but will remain with purely subjective manifestations, deriving from them merely ephemeral pleasures. Then love, instead of constantly beginning anew and constantly growing between them, quite the contrary, constantly, so to speak, ends and breaks off. Let us add that among other things a great deal depends here on the correct education of tenderness, on the responsibility for its manifestations….

Tenderness has an enormous role to fulfill here. When thoroughly joined with true love of the person, and being disinterested, it is capable of leading love out of various dangers of egoism of the senses, out of the dangers of the attitude to use. Tenderness is the ability to feel the whole man, the whole person, in all, even the most hidden movements of his soul, but always bearing in mind the true good of that person….

It may seem strange that the reflections on tenderness are located in this part of the chapter, which speaks of the problem of abstinence. (This chapter is The Person and Chastity)
However, there is a close connection and the reflections here are in their proper place. There can be no true tenderness without mature continence, which has its source in the will that is always ready to love, thus consistently overcoming the attitude to use imposed by sensuality and the concupiscence of the flesh. Without this continence the natural energies of sensuality and the energies of affectivity absorbed in their orbit will become mere material for egoism of the senses, and eventually for egoism of affection. This must be clearly and explicitly stated. Life teaches this at every step. The faithful know that behind this lies the mystery of original sin, whose consequences weigh in some particular way on the sphere of sexus and threatens the person, the greatest good among those of the created universe. This danger in a sense borders on love: what can be developed on the basis of the same material is true love, a union of persons, as well as ostensible “love”, which merely provides a cover for the interior attitude to use, for egoism that contradicts love. How enormous and in effect how positive a role abstinence fulfills here, for it liberates from that attitude and from egoism, and thereby indirectly forms love. The love of a woman and a man cannot be built otherwise than through a certain sacrifice and denial of oneself. We find the formula for this denial in the Gospel, in the words of Christ: “Whoever wishes to come after me, let him deny himself….” (see Mt 16:24, Mk 8:34, or Lk 9:23) The Gospel teaches abstinence as a way of loving.”
”} From “Love and Responsibility” by Karol Wojtyla


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