For those who are new and unfamiliar with my sister’s case with her kids and want the whole story read this thread: forums.catholic.com/showthread.php?t=155548&highlight=kids+going+on+visitation
I just wanted to give an update and ask for prayers again. My sister’s children are now 12 1/2 yr old, my niece, and 9 1/2 yr old, my nephew. Both are victims of verbal and emotional abuse by their dad and step-mom. My nephew is a victim of physical abuse more than two times by these people. As a result of all these, the courts did nothing. The judge was a man who always sided with the father and in this case because they were cops (the dad and step-mom). Child protective services also did nothing to protect these children even though they did put in their report that the boy was physically abused and the children were neglected and not properly supervised. Well, our prayers were not answered with our justice system, but were when the dad finally got tired of fighting with his kids and did not force them anymore to come on visitations. He came out to my sisters house for short visitations and the kids liked that much better. They hated his new wife for she was mean and mentally ill, they called her “crazy.” From the stories they tell us, I agree she is mentally sick and needs medications. I feel bad for her biological children who hate her.
Anyway, as a result of this child abuse, my nephew got angrier and angrier and after many therapist and occupational therapist, nothing helped. He is finally in a behavior center on an outpatient center and on medication. He receives group therapy daily and individual therapy twice a week and family therapy once a week. He has improved so much and is an angel compared to what he was before. Now his dad is back with his wife again. He separated for a time and was a nice man again, but now is back to being mean and angry and putting the kids last. He is being demanding on the kids again after he promised them that he would never force them to come to her house again. Today the kids had family therapy and in the therapy my nephew express extreme fear of going to his dad’s house and seeing this woman, his step-mom. The therapist gave him two paper figures to role play and said that one was his dad and the other was his step mom and needless to say that by the end of his talking about them, he had torn them up into little pieces and put them in the trash. He told the therapist that he was afraid his dad would beat him again and would do so like their little dog. She asked him to clarify and my niece explained. While they went fishing one time the little dog they own took a fish out of the box and bit it. His dad got so angry he kept punching and punching the dog over and over again in the ribs. My niece said she was crying and so was her brother. My ex BIL has done so before when he was married to my sister with their family dog and so we believe this story. At this, the therapist looked at my sister and said, “You need to get sole custody of your children.”
People, please, all you prayer warriors, let us all pull together and pray that my sister can get full custody of her kids. Tomorrow I am going to the court house to look at her case file. We had two counselors testify. Both counselors recommended to this same judge supervised visitations to the judge and he ignored that advice. One told the judge that he was an unfit father and he ignored that. We have all the evidence and the judge heard it all, but just sided with the dad. We don’t understand. The only evidence we did not present because my sister’s lawyer was against it but I think we should have presented it was a 911 recording of a call made by the step mom’s daughter of a fight between her mom and my nieces’ and nephews’ dad. You can hear the anger and violent temper in his voice on the tape. That should show his violent side.
We want to reopen the case again and have another judge look into it, but we don’t know if that is possible. WE pray it is for the kids sake. We have new counselors now that can testify too. They say my nephew is severely depressed and suffers from post-traumatic syndrome due to the trauma of the abuse. My niece suffers from depression and anxiety too.
Now my ex BIL is wanting to take the kids again for overnighters and my sister doesn’t want him to ruin what the therapist have helped to fit in her son. The therapist have already noted that every time my nephew sees his father, he regresses and gets angrier and they have to start all over again in therapy. An overnighter is not a good idea. He has the right to see them as their father, but it is not in the best interest of the kids.
We need your prayers again. Please pray for sole custody for my sister. My ex BIL owes over $30,000.00 in child support. If we have to, we can report him and he will go to jail, but it will only be for a short time and he will come out angrier than ever and take them every other weekend again to his wife’s house and she will ruin them again.
Please pray, pray, pray.:gopray: