Hi! I'm newly baptized and confirmed this Easter. Before I converted, I was civilly married to, then civilly divorced from, a non-practicing Catholic. We were married by an ordained minister but not from my faith (beach wedding). During my Inquiry I was told I needed a Lack of Form determination to be free to marry in the church, but since I'm single, not dating, etc. I was able to be baptized and confirmed.
Now, my dilemma: I divorced my ex because he was using birth control and told me he never wanted to have kids, now, he's been dating a woman who he has discussed (briefly, they aren't getting married) having kids with... Aside from the emotional turmoil, I feel a moral/ethical bind. Since I haven't begun the Lack of Form paperwork, but am a practicing Catholic, am I obligated to attempt to reconcile the marriage and seek convalidation as he is now open to children? I do love him, but he has doubts about ever practicing the faith as I do, and our interactions are very wounded from the marriage. And there is this other woman. I've asked him to not have contact with her while I clarify our status, and to let her know the moral and ecclesiastical reasons for the no contact, etc. He's agreed. Since Lack of Form means there never was a marriage am I obligated to not date until this is resolved? If I start dating my civil ex- but possibly sacramentally still husband are we able to have marital relations or is it fornication? I am waiting to meet with a priest but am traveling for the summer so not at my home parish.
Thanks, I look forward to your responses. The possibility of moral clarity is why I converted.