I think this is the reason that many arranged marriages are quite happy, because they involve such people who are “so easy to be around” that hundreds of millions of people would find them to be good spouses. I don’t believe in the “one per customer” concept either, and think that the idea of a “soul mate” or “God chose this person to be my spouse” often results in people entering very unhealthy, or even abusive relationships. Indeed, the “God chose my spouse” idea seems to be used by some as a reason they feel obligated to stay in an abusive marriage, that it is God’s will that they be abused.
Although I’ll also note that I do NOT subscribe to the “grass is greener” mentality some conservative posters here have about arranged marriages as opposed to love marriages. Indeed, I’ve been a little surprised that no one has made any comments yet about how romantic love doesn’t actually exist, is merely lust and/or infatuation that will always fade, and should be completely irrelevant in choosing a marriage partner.
I actually know a number of people who had arranged marriages, and believe me, they’re not all sunshine and roses, either. I recall one comment by someone who stated they worked with many people of Indian descent who had arranged marriages and “they seem to be the happiest marriages I’ve seen”. Well, of course they seem that way on the surface. Most people who hail from such cultures would never dream of airing their dirty laundry in public. But I’ve seen a woman crying bitterly because of an arranged marriage, even though the husband actually was a college acquaintance, not a total stranger, and I’ve known women who have escaped such marriages.
Also, I think it’s also telling that most cultures that have traditions of arranged marriage also have traditions of polygamy (Islamic countries, South Asia), concubinage (China, Japan, Korea, and I’m sure other East Asian countries), and/or just winking at affairs (European countries, at least when it came to the nobility). Yes, such marriages are less likely to end in divorce, but IMHO I’d rather be divorced than be a martyr in a marriage with a philandering and/or abusive spouse.