Hi all. I’m new to these forums. I hope I’m posting this in the right spot.
I’m a lapsed Catholic (I did the whole thing…1st. communion, confirmation, was devout until I went to college) who is considering returning to the Church after some spiritual experiences I’ve had since the birth of my first child.
I do have some questions, mainly pertaining to my marriage.
I was not married in the Church (civil ceremony performed by a friend). I realize I would have to get my marriage convalidated.
The problem with this is, my husband considers my re-entering the Catholic faith to be a “worst case scenario” for him. When he met me I was mainly agnostic after dabbling in various faiths since I went to college, but never really finding a home in any of them. The “me” that is considering returning to Christianity is kind of freaking him out (understandably, he didn’t think this would ever happen when we met…neither did I!!!). He is agnostic, but I think he’d call himself a flat-out atheist if he were being honest. I think he would agree to get married in the Catholic church just to make me happy, except I don’t know if it is possible. This is why:
There are two things I am pretty sure he will never personally agree to:
One: To raise our children as Catholics (although I think he would agree for them be baptised and go to mass, I doubt he would want them to have communion or confirmation unless they really wanted to do it and chose it of their own free will). Ironically, he was baptised in the Catholic church but his parents never followed through with anything else, including ever taking him to mass. They did it for my FIL’s parents, I think.
Two: to not use traditional contraception, instead using NFP. Which I’m not sure why he is so opposed to it now, since we used FAM/NFP before we were married because I react to hormonal BC, and I never got pregnant. But now all of a sudden he is totally against it.
Given these issues my husband would not agree to follow regarding Catholic teaching, would we even be able to have our marriage convalidated? If I could somehow still get the marriage convalidated, and my husband insisted on using contraception, could I even receive Communion?
I am probably going to end up going to mass anyway regardless, and I am trying to psych myself up for going to confession (eek!). But the thought of years without receiving Communion is kind of eating away at me. I’d really like to know what my options are.
Thank you in advance for your responses.