Absolutely not because we try very hard to DIScourage any gifts, encourage a family gift instead (board games, museum or zoo family memberships, outdoor stuff like a basketball hoop for the driveway), or 1 very simple gift per child (a book, art supplies, a toy).
If THEY have a probelm with that, then why should I feel guilty? We also do not allow adults to buy for each other at all as a general rule, some years we see something that is “just right” and will surprise the grandparents, but normally not. We try very hard to make the focus of christmas be the season of joy, not the season of debt and giving gifts people don’t even really want or need. ( I loathe junk and trinkets and knick-knacks!) **
We buy for our kids and that’s it. Once in a while, if money is more plentiful that year, we’ll buy a little something for Rob’s parents if we find just the right thing - not easy for people with lots of money who like to shop! I can count on one hand how often we’ve bought even for each other.
I really don’t like Christmas. Nothing but bad memories frm a cruddy childhood and mob rule and debt.
However, my reaction to that sentiment is to go out of my way to make our Christmas’ NOT LIKE THAT! We stay home, eat great decadent foods, savor the gifts we have gotten, especially the gifts of a loving family able to spend the entire day together in warmth and plenty on a cold winter day. My kids seem to love Christmas and not associate it with a mountain of gifts, so I think I’ve met my goal.
**Yet, my mil still whines about christmas gifts. I think it’s because she is used to tossing money to get/show affection and feels we’ve robbed her of that. Even when she can’t afford it, she’ll feel that this is what a loving grandmother does.:shrug: And the kids don’t remember a single gift she’s ever gotten them because she doesn’t believe me when I tell her they aren’t interested in the popular junk. **