To what extent can an American lawyer assist in placing a child-in-need (e.g., abused) in a household where open homosexuality is accepted without violating moral norms? What if the behavior is private (the adult hires a babysitter and lives out his affair without telling the child)? Does age/sex of child matter? Does it matter if lawyer is not a policymaker? if he makes known his objections first? if the matter would be conducted without his participation? Does it matter if the alternative placement would also be problematic (private homosexual vs. “openly” fornicating with boyfriend/girlfriend)?
Obvious #1: if the lawyer can obtain alternative assignments, (s)he should do so.
Obvious #2: degree of assistance matters. Remote cooperation of holding a door for someone to enter a placement meeting for a same-sex household wouldn’t be problematic. Leading the placement meeting is a lot more morally iffy. In a similar (but not exact) situation, I understand that Catholic Charities in Illinois got out of the adoption business over these type issues.
If I, as a lawyer, were assigned such a case, and couldn’t get out of it, I should resign, right?
Please do not say: consult your priest. I will do that regardless, and obey him should he give direct advice. I merely invite you to play armchair theologian so that I might make as informed a decision as possible given every nuance or should the priest decline to stick his neck out with direct advice. Who knows? - a comment here may help formulate the best questions to the priest. Thanks!