[quote="Sirach2, post:19, topic:239368"]
Whenever there are blessings bestowed in the context of a mass, they are not specifically liturgical rites, but are permitted for those occasions such as you mentioned, OP. As such, there are no rubrics forbidding the faithful from adding their prayer to the priest's, and I think it is a beautiful gesture to the ones who are being prayed for. Last Sunday, we had a couple renewing their vows on their 50th wedding anniversary and Father gave them a special blessing. True, we did not extend hands, but I have seen this practice on other similar occasions.
Mark 16:17, "and believers shall lay hands upon the sick and they will get will get well." There is a tranfer of spiritual power/anointing/blessing that is not present by simply saying the words without the laying on of hands, or extending them. If so, Jesus would not have advocated using physical contact.
I would not be so quick to dismiss the request of your pastor, but remember - God sees the heart, If you make the gesture with ill will, there will be no blessing. Maybe it's best to adjust your thoughts. :)
Here is the whole. do you do all those things?
And they hearing that he was alive, and had been seen by her, did not believe.  And after that he appeared in another shape to two of them walking, as they were going into the country.  And they going told it to the rest: neither did they believe them.  At length he appeared to the eleven as they were at table: and he upbraided them with their incredulity and hardness of heart, because they did not believe them who had seen him after he was risen again.  And he said to them: Go ye into the whole world, and preach the gospel to every creature.
 He that believeth and is baptized, shall be saved: but he that believeth not shall be condemned.  And these signs shall follow them that believe: In my name they shall cast out devils: they shall speak with new tongues.  They shall take up serpents; and if they shall drink any deadly thing, it shall not hurt them: they shall lay their hands upon the sick, and they shall recover.  And the Lord Jesus, after he had spoken to them, was taken up into heaven, and sitteth on the right hand of God.  But they going forth preached everywhere: the Lord working withal, and confirming the word with signs that followed.