[quote="GeorgiaPeach, post:1, topic:197301"]
I am just wondering if there are any legally divorced Catholics out there that have decided to stand my their wedding vows?
Long story short, I was married to a great man for 17 years (3 children). Mid-life crisis combined with PTSD (military) lead him to file for legal divorce. I am in a no-fault state, so I had no option but to go along with the divorce.
I set up an appointment to talk to our parish priest to get advice regarding legal divorce. Instead, the woman who deals with annulments met with me. She quized me and found a "loop hole" that would allow for an annulment. It stunned me.
My husband and I are on very friendly terms and talk daily. We are both in agreement that our marriage was valid.
Although I know in my heart that I am doing God's will by standing by my vows, I seem to be alone in my views. I mean, I did say "for better or for worse." This is the "worse" in my opinion. If this means growing old alone, then so be it.
My views are difficult for anyone else to accept. If I hear "screw him" or that some man will come along and "sweep me off my feet" one more time I am going to scream.
I don't know why it is so hard for people to accept that I am at peace with my decision. This isn't so much about my husband, but about my relationship with God. I believe I am sending a great message to my children too.
Any thoughts (reassurance ;) ) on the issue would be much appreciated.
For the time being I am in a similar situation. After our civil divorce I caved and filed (half-heartedly) for an annulment. It was denied prior to ever making it to the tribunal (some sort of pre-screening thing). I was relieved. I have no desire to date ever again, let alone re-marry. I still love my wife and take my vows very seriously. However, about a year ago, my wife turned around and filed for an annulment. Now I find I dread going to the mailbox for fear that the tribunal will have granted nullity. We've been married 24 years (separated & then divorced for almost 5 years). A decree of nullity would mean that all those years were a lie. The wedding band that I continue to wear on my finger would become meaningless. What of the love that I still have for my wife?
I understand and share some of what you are going through. I can't tell you how many times I've been asked why I still wear my wedding ring or why I don't look for another relationship. Even many Catholic friends seem confused over my decision to stay faithful to the vows I took at our wedding. It's very sad and my biggest prayer is that the petition my wife submitted will be denied. If it's not, I don't know how I will be able to cope. The being apart has been devastating. To then be told that there was never a marriage to begin with and that the woman who I continue to love is not and never has been my wife… I think that might destroy me completely. :(