As I lie next to my wife in bed being in the mood, but know that I can’t be in the mood, a situation came to me. My wife is not “convinced” yet that NFP is the way to go. But, as anyone who has had sex can testify, there is alot more to sexual activity then the conjugal union.
Assuming that all the sexual activity is within the context of marriage, is it chaste for there to be natural (by natural, I mean of nature - I am not referring to natural law) sexual activity whose aim is solely to pleasure the woman?
My instinct is to say “no” because masturbation is sinful for a man and a woman (I think).
However, my instinct also says “yes” because the church does not condemn any sexual act in which the man is sterile through no fault of his own (i.e. vasectomy)
From my understanding, the principle behind Humanae Vitae was that it is wrong to misuse the reproductive organs for selfish reasons. However, is it perverted to wish to satisfy your spouse sexually from the male perspective if the male has no intention of climaxing? The act would satisfy me, I would get aroused, I just wouldn’t climax. From the man’s perspective, this is no different than kissing.
I apologize if the topic is crude, but I am just trying to figure this out. And if the answer is yes, the Church is beyond a doubt, pro-female.