I was hoping to ask a priest this but I hope others are able to give me an answer as time is of the essence. Is it correct to let a person know you are having a Mass said for them? I love them but I don’t wish it to seem that I am letting them know in order to ingratiate myself although I wonder if they would appreciate knowing. I feel I’m struggling between knowing what is selfless and selfish here.
My many thanks in advance!