Well this is getting pretty far from the specific question. But, and I do not want to get into particulars, lets say as an example that husband feels very strongly that the child should be homeschooled for fear of the social environment and the wife feels strongly that the child should go to public school thinking the child will hold up just fine to the social pressures. Neither is a moral absolute. Both feel very strongly and wife feels strong enough that she will act with or without husbands approval.
Let us also assume that counseling efforts have been tried and for years, and not helped.
I am not even asking if the husband has authority to make the final decision (which is a valid question in itself, but not being asked here), just asking if it is proper, for the sake of the welfare of the children, to insist that the wife at least hear what the pastor would have to say about the matter.
If this example is going to send folks off on a tangent, perhaps someone can give an example of something that is not a clear moral absolute but where the couple has exhausted efforts to resolve and there is no chance of compromise . Yes, yes, we all know all about the husbands’ obligation to love as Christ loved the Church, and when people did not submit to his Authority he still continued to love them endlessly. But saying so avoids the question of whether the Church had an obligation to submit to Christ’s authority or not.