“But, for me, it always comes back to this question. Why should I have to?”
-Because you know better.
-It’s a corporal work of mercy.
You can’t assume proper catechesis. This is not the fault of the people in general. God graced you with the gift of knowledge, why on Earth hide it under a basket?
This doesn’t mean you have to force the compliance; but by all means ***ALWAYS ***speak up productively. Don’t gossip please.
Get more involved.
It annoys me to no end when Mrs. McGillicuddy sits with her lips pursed like she ate a lemon, but won’t share what has made her so sour. We’re not mind readers; we’re not omniscient.
We are all aware that there are two different issues at hand, however: actual abuse, like changing words of prayer; and liturgical variation like holding hands during the “Our Father” (something some of us have grown up with – and so becomes our “norm”). Even if the issue is in regards to holding hands during the “Our Father” one should still speak up; even if you think you’re 2 people in 100 that feel that way, more likely you’re 10… you still deserve to be heard on some level.
There’s this older gentleman at my Church who is completely disgusted by the fact that he can’t say or sing YHWH in church anymore. My explanation wasn’t enough for him, I could tell, so I have brought him every possible document I can find on the subject for him because I know it means that much to him. If he had never spoken up, he would have just stewed in his juices and grown bitter. He’s still not convinced, but at least he knows his opinion matters and so I see less bitterness and more resignation. Not perfect, I know, but better.
As a dual director: Liturgical & Music, I (personally) feel like people (where I am) aren’t speaking up because they don’t want to do the work: come to the planning meetings; let us know. Like petulant teenagers, they would rather sit and complain to everyone else who with give them an ear, but not actually step up to the plate and help out. Seriously, if you don’t like “variations, and innovations”, join the liturgy committee. Nip these ideas in the bud; even ones from the priest, at least give him the chance to “fix” it before it goes public and then (heaven forbid) becomes a “tradition”. Isn’t that so much better than sitting there waiting for the next “incursion” and then either spreading sedition or shouting “gotcha” or, worse yet, stewing in rage or even leaving for another church?
Still, even if you can’t make it to these meetings or …whatever, it’s important to speak up productively. Going to the priest or the liturgy director, or even the music director (though warning many of these are not Catholic, so may not get what you are telling them - hey, even those of us who are Catholic may never have seen it done “right”); also there’s the parish council. If you are not an eloquent speaker, write down in a letter to the council just what the problems are. Don’t be one of the Israelites in the desert that sat back and shook their heads as Aaron built his golden calf. Make sure you look at the heart of what you take issue with and first ask yourself, is it a sacred calf to you?