My wife (a cradle Catholic) was divorced when she was young (No annulment). We were married 40 years ago outside the Catholic Church. We have taken a vow of abstinence and live as brother and sister. This allowed me to be confirmed as a Catholic and for us to receive the Eucharist (access to the sacraments). We strictly adhere to this vow.
I have just recently started serving as an alter server. I haven’t yet received the Rite of Commission to be a EM. I am concerned as to the Church’s official policy for those in my circumstances. Strictly speaking, due to the vow and our status, would this be allowed or is it against Canon Law? Our previous priest instructed me that due to the vow, we were in a state of grace and our status was no ones business and that I need not bring it up in the future.
Have any of you experienced a situation like mine and if so, could you give me any advice. I would greatly appreciate it.
In case you are wondering, she has not requested an annulment because, since she immigrated to the United States 40 years ago, she has no idea where in the world her ex husband is…