Living in a porn-driven, 'look-at-me' culture

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Gee, when even the mainstream media notice, it must be a problem!

** Living in a porn-driven, ‘look-at-me’ culture**

CHICAGO, Illinois (AP) – Porn used to be relegated to a video hidden in the bottom drawer, or a magazine under the mattress. Today, it’s part of everyday life.
Hugh Hefner’s girlfriends have become TV’s “girls next door.” Porn stars have MySpace pages and do voiceovers for video games. And while “porn on demand” is standard for hotel TVs and upgraded cable packages, it’s even easier to find it with a few clicks on the computer.

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Many agree that the trend has had a particularly strong influence on young women – in some cases, taking shape as an unapologetic embracing of sexuality and exhibitionism.

It’s a prevalent sentiment in our look-at-me culture. But many wonder if it really is empowering, especially for younger women and girls who try to emulate what’s already on the Web.
Too often, educators and health professionals say, the results are cases of “Girls Gone Wild” – gone wild.

You’re right, didymus. I think the culture has to get REALLY bad before some people notice. I think we’re close to hitting bottom.

I’d agree, but just when I think we are there, something else manages to shock the socks off me.

But I pray you are right.

Oh, I agree, jrabs,& my socks are constantly getting shocked off. When you think of things like an actual “embryo bank” in San Antonio, where people can choose from ready-made embryos, & researchers in Europe getting the green light to fertilize embryos that are human/animal… It’s easy to get depressed. I know you’re right that prayer & trust in Jesus is key.

Looking back over my post, I realize I’m getting way off topic. To get back to the original, I think a few weeks ago a major study came out by the American Academy of Pediatrics or some organization like that that found these images are unhealthy for young girls’ self-esteem. Imagine that…

That’s why I’m wearing sandals :stuck_out_tongue:

I think that porn wouldn’t have such a strong hold on our society, if people felt loved at home. Columbine, etc…shows that children lack love at home…lack attention from their parents. Nothing can replace that. When it falls short from our parents/guardians…we will search for it elsewhere…When a girl dresses seductively, especially a young teenager, I don’t look at her with judgement…I look at her as …‘is this girl loved at home, namely from her dad?’ Or is she seeking attention and love from a man, because she’s not getting it at home? Unfortunately, so many of our youth today fall into that latter category…for whatever the reasons, parents are too busy…throw money at the kids…whatever…they are not loving their kids, in the ways they need it. They are not validating their kids’ feelings. It’s part of the natural maturation process…for a young girl…to receive her validation from her dad. If that is absent…it can cause her to seek it elsewhere. Now, there are kids who just like to follow the crowd…but, I speaking in generalities…when we look at the problems with our youth becoming sexualized–it seems at younger and younger ages. Media is to blame, but the media cannot be entirely to blame.

I remained a virgin until I married my husband…but, I speak from experience. I did not feel love growing up…my dad died when I was young, and my BIL raised me, and showed me little love and attention. What happened was that I sought that validation from other boys…soon men. Thankfully, I met a loving man who understood this about me, and by God’s grace and his love…enabled me to get past that.

Just wanted to add that. I don’t think that we would have such a ‘look at me’ culture, if kids were treated with more love and attention at home.:o

i am not disagreeing with you so much as adding another layer to what you wrote.

i have noticed that people with both low esteem and those with overly ego driven behvior tend to act similar.

as a young woman, i had some girlfriends who were very promiscuous. some were underconfident and acted in self destructive ways because of a extreme desire for love. but i had other friends who were very ‘me’ driven. they slept around because they wanted to and they really couldn’t understand why anyone would not respect them afterwards.

in my son’s former fifth grade class, he was given weekly self esteem classes. i don’t know why his class needed this course. but i would imagine that for some kids such a class would encourage very egocentric behavior.

by the way there have been some studies shown that the more ego driven a person is, the easier they will take offense at being teased. so, columbine could have been caused byeither overly confident kids as well as underconfident, unloved children. the two killers families have not really spoken up, so i don’t know which might be the case.

The solution is to act like Catholics wherever we are. I didn’t choose to add trashy images of celebrities to magazine covers or place porn magazines at my local grocery but I don’t buy them. I don’t want satellite or cable anything. The radio in my car stays off unless I’m listening to a Catholic station. My news comes off certain internet sites minus the useless celebrity info.

The way things are is no accident, It’s taken about 30 years to get here but things have hit bottom. I believe when enough people begin to realize that following the example set by the world is hurting them and the people they care about, they will reconsider their lives. Don’t despair, since God will not abandon His Church.

God bless,
Ed

The world is purified through suffering. When will the culture hit rock bottom? It’s hard to know because each new week seems to bring a new shocking reminder of how depraved human beings can be when they abandon God. We must continue to pray and display courage when standing up to the truth.

For those of you who keep getting various articles of clothing “shocked off” of yourself, I’d like to point out that you may be contributing to the porn problem.

Sure… now it’s just your socks… but what will it be next? :smiley:

yes, if goodness gracious, you get shocked several times in a row. it will be first your socks, then your hat, then your shirt…oh my…:eek:

i just have this impression of a bunch of shocked people with thier clothing flying mysteriously off.

omg…I deleted that post…I didn’t want to really share all that about myself.:blush: :ouch: Guess I didn’t catch it in time.

you can ask the moderator to delete the post responding to yours. if it was mine i will not be offended.

occasionally when someone is offensive, both their posts and the ones answering them get deleted. this isn’t because the people responding are wrong just that the moderator doesn’t want the thread to turn into chaos.

again, if its the post of yours that i responded, i don’t mind having my post deleted. just ask the moderator to do so.

well…nah, it’s ok. it’s gone technically…
btw–i agree with your columbine assessment…it’s impossible to list all of the possibilities. i do believe that the kids were teased/bullied…that was the speculation back when it happened.

anyways…thank you for your reply…have a good night, deb!:slight_smile:

well, if it helps you feel better. nothing that you wrote about yourself sounded bad.

sadly, i have not led the most pure life so there are some aspects of my past life that would cause other christians to judge me harshly. :frowning:

i didn’t read anything like that in your post. you just sounded like an admirable lady.:slight_smile:

I’m a new member here who is happy to have found this site.

I have been very disturbed about an ad that has been running in our church paper for the last 2 months. The ad reads “BEST LITTLE WHORE HOUSE IN TEXAS” full dinner and fun play $65.00. I have tried to have the ad removed but the lady running it tells me it can’t be done. I have called the editer’s office and left messages with the church office and the Paster with no return calls. Most people I have talked to, tell me they see nothing wrong with it. It seems that all I can do now is pray that God will take care it. Any suggestions are welcome.

ST. Paul of Tarus help your church

Hello jeany, I can hardly believe what you are saying. A porn ad in your CHURCH paper!!???

It’s not porn - I saw the movie. It’s kind of trashy, and I saw the movie years ago, but it’s not porn. That said, I really don’t see any reason to advertise it in a Church bulletin.

the movie is not porn, although i think that it is a highly questionable ad to have in one’s church paper.

in the seventies there was a comedy about a whorehouse in texas. i remember it being very stupid but certainly not porn.:eek: i only saw part of it on hbo before my grandma turned it off in disgust. i think that dolly parton was in it.

it wasn’t a very moral movie so i agree it shouldn’t be in your church paper. you might get further not calling it porn, though.

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