I know this has probably been posted numerous times on this forum so I apologize, but … .
I am currently living in a sexless marriage. My wife and I have been married for over 10 years, and we have 5 children. We just adopted a child as we both felt this was God’s will for us. However, ever since we brought the baby home, our sex life has went way downhill, to the point where it is non-existent. I have tried talking to my wife about the situation, but every time I does, she just gets upset and starts crying. Basically, what has happened is that my wife has put all of her energy and effort into rearing the children, and she has told me there isn’t anything left for me. I think she is looking at sex with me as a another thing to do, and she doesn’t have enough bandwidth to get the current things done, so certainly does not have time or sex.
I am really embracing my faith, going to confession frequently, studying catechism, seeking guidance and direction from God, but this is very difficult. Am I supposed to wait until my children are grown and out of the house before I have sex with my wife?
What do I do?
God, my father … .
Help me to overcome my insatiable desire to gratify my flesh.
Help me to cherish the covenantal marriage I have with my wife.
Help me to embrace your will.
Help me in my moments of temptation
Help me not to despair, nor become despondent
Help me to love my wife as you have loved me
Through Christ our Lord
Mary, my Mother…