I need advice. I lead a young adults choir at our church in London, UK and randomly found out that one of my members lives unmarried with her partner and they have 2 children together. He doesn’t believe in God but she is a devout catholic and attends masses regularly and she also regularly takes communion. Ever since she told me about it (that she isn’t married) I cannot stop thinking about it! How can she take communion and live unmarried for 20 years??? When I asked her why they’re not married she answered that ‘she always thought that to marry one has to have a lot of money’ (they’re both unemployed, I would say, voluntarily).
I’m not sure what I do? Do I do anything?? I’m hesitant to speak to her about it as I don’t feel I should be telling her she is a sinner (but who is not?)…also equally I don’t feel confident to speak to the priest about it as he knows her very well (she is involved in various activities in the church) so he MUST know about it??? I’m very confused…
Also the very same lady told me (with laughter) that she knows so many people from the church who don’t even go to confession and still take the communion! I’m not sure what to say or do!? I’m quite shocked about these things!!