I was thinking in the terms of your closing thought as I read through your post.
Sadly, this is the position in which he has placed you.
Some people cannot deal with others unless they feel superior or unless others seem or are made to feel inferior to them.
How it happens I do not know–I suspect that, as with everything in life, it is developmental (the more it is engaged the stronger hold it has on the human psyche).
I find that you are correct; it’s the lose-lose scenario (damned if you do; damned if you don’t); the only way you would win (in his eyes) is if you capitulate totally (convert).
However you have hit upon the one merit in your situation:
This is so Biblical!:
8:28 We know that by turning everything to their good God co-operates with all those who love him, with all those that he has ,called according to his purpose. 8:29 They are the ones he chose specially long ago and intended to become true images of his Son, so that his Son might be the eldest of many brothers. 8:30 He called those he intended for this; those he called he justified, and with those he justified he shared his glory. (Romans)
…and is fully in line with what Jesus expects of His Followers:
15:57 So let us thank God for giving us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ. 15:58 Never give in then, my dear brothers, never admit defeat; keep on working at the Lord’s work always, knowing that, in the Lord, you cannot be labouring in vain.
16:13 Be awake to all the dangers; stay firm in the faith; be brave and be strong. 16:14 Let everything you do be done in love. (1 Corinthians)
So while you may be forced to endure this onslaught on a daily basis, your Fidelity to the Faith, in Obedience to God, can prove to be the louder Evangelization tool at your disposal.
Check this Command from God:
6:27 ‘But I say this to you who are listening: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, 6:28 bless those who curse you, pray for those who treat you badly. (St. Luke)
12:9 Do not let your love be a pretence, but sincerely prefer good to evil… 12:11 Work for the Lord with untiring effort and with great earnestness of spirit. 12:12 If you have hope, this will make you cheerful. Do not give up if trials come; and keep on praying… 12:14 Bless those who persecute you: never curse them, bless them… 12:17 Never repay evil with evil but let everyone see that you are interested only in the highest ideals. 12:18 Do all you can to live at peace with everyone. 12:19 Never try to get revenge; leave that, my friends, to God’s anger. As scripture says: vengeance is mine – I will pay them back, the Lord promises. 12:20 But there is more: If your enemy is hungry, you should give him food, and if he is thirsty, let him drink. Thus you heap red-hot coals on his head. 12:21 Resist evil and conquer it with good. (Romans)
We are to be Faithful to God in all adversities; ambassadors of Christ who Stand prayerfully on His side!