Hi all, it’s me again :o . I want to run this past all of you, I don’t know if I did the right, Catholic, charitable thing or not. My mom, sister and nephew came out to spend Christmas with my family, me, husband and baby from California because my husband decided he wasn’t going to California for Christmas. They arrived on Christmas day after a terrible trip…delayed & missed flights lost luggage, etc. all of this while traveling with a 2 year old. Needless to say my husband was distant, cold and invited his friends over to listen to music upstairs. My family was here on the 25th and left on the 27th, during that time my husband took off to the casino all night, went to help a friend paint the whole two other days…how rude is that? He’s just a jerk considering my family has been nothing but nice to him even knowing all he’s been up to and has put me through. They treat him with dignity and respect even if he doesn’t deserve it.
Anyway, he decided that we would go to California after all and spend new years with our families. We were supposed to leave on the 27th with my family…last minute he decided he wasn’t going. I asked why and he said he just didn’t want to go and for me not to insist, I told him he was an insensitive jerk, I also said he was an a******, I was really irritated with him, it’s hard traveling with a baby. So I asked him where he was going to stay, he said at the house and I said no. He asked why and I told him he knew why. I reminded him that the last time I was in California with my family he brought his whores into my house and kept them there…it wasn’t going to happen again. I haven’t given him a key to our new house since we purchased it, he doesn’t insist because he knows what he did at our other home. So I told him he needed to figure out where to stay while I was gone. He didn’t even come to the house before we left to the airport!!! I locked all doors…he called and left a message about how he was going to get in and so forth. I haven’t talked to him since he said he wasn’t going.
Was this wrong of me? I don’t trust that he won’t bring his whores into my family’s house while I’m gone…he doesn’t respect anything. He has no respect for me or our home, even if it’s not really a home, it’s still where my son and I live, the thought of some other women in there invading my children’s space just drives me crazy!!! I know there is nothing left to save as far as the marriage goes, and my attitude is his fault, had he respected our other home this wouldn’t be my behavior. The problem is that he may be a jerk but I’m not and there are moments that I do feel bad, I hate being a jerk, but I just don’t trust him, I wouldn’t doubt that while I’m gone he’d go in and move stuff out…there are just a million things that run through my head. What do you all think?