Hello, everyone. I am going to tell you a story, and tell me how ridiculous you think it sounds! Lol. So let’s say a guy had been discerning priesthood for four years, and then went to a retreat which would determine whether or not one was accepted with an order. A few days later, he receives notification from the seminary/order that they did not think his application indicates he should go to seminary (at least not yet). Then let’s say he went to a friend’s wedding a couple weekends later, and met a really nice girl from California there at the wedding, and that he felt like something really clicked. He left the next day after the wedding, but asked for her number or e-mail address, and she gave it to him, and they began exchanging e-mails.
OK, so yes, the guy is me. I think it sounds really crazy that it’s possible God may be calling me to date this woman for two reasons: 1) I have been very serious about discerning priesthood and have thought for a while that I wouldn’t be happy until I gave seminary a try, and 2) even if both she and I agreed to date despite that, we live basically 24 hours apart, since I live in Missouri.
I know I should talk with a priest/spiritual advisor/etc. about this, but I just wanted to see how many people think it sounds really crazy, too. I guess if you have any other thoughts that would be fine, too.
In any case, I haven’t done this with any woman since before I started discerning priesthood. And, I know that I’m going to have to do the whole “define the relationship” thing, for the sake of both of us, very soon, if we keep on e-mailing each other.
The absolute craziest thing about this is that I have a friend who lives in Phoenix, AZ, who is trying to get me to come work there (he has a job opening at his parish), and if I did, I would “only” be 5-6 hours away from this woman, which would certainly make things a little easier (cheaper at least…haha) in terms of a long-distance relationship.