I am in an awesome courtship with a wonderful woman whom I want to marry. We talk about marriage openly and both want to get married. However, if we get married now (within the year) we will be very poor. Both of us plan on going back to school and while both of us have jobs, neither has a career (she would be going to grad school and I would be going to engineering school). Both of us are leaning towards getting engaged, married next summer and struggling financially for a couple of years while in school. We both live simply and want to live simply so we’ll be happy with just the bare necessities. Logically it would be cheaper to live together (married of course) with one set of bills instead of 2 (as is our current situation). Luckily she has health insurance through her job so if we were to get married and pregnant before graduating school, that would be covered (although we would practice NFP until one of us graduates or we discern God is asking us to stop).
The question that keeps buzzing in my brain is, should we get engaged now not having all the details worked out (school, finances, etc) and possibly have an extended engagement? Or should we wait until after we go through school (for me it would probably be 2 1/2 years)?
Okay these are the ramblings of a guy who is trying to have all details worked out and bases covered (my brain is VERY analytical). I look forward to hearing from the wisdom of those who have gone before me…
Thanks in advance and God bless you all!