[quote="Ruthie_again, post:9, topic:330628"]
Please listen to this as if it were said in a loving and concerned tone - because it is. (I realized on reading it over that it might sound like mean lecturing form someone being "holier than thou.")
Yes, you can become Catholic, but, as long as you are sleeping with him, you will not be able to receive the Eucharist - which is the very center of our faith.
And, once you fully understand the Faith, you will be in mortal sin (read 1859-1891) if you continue to have sex with him - and that means Hell.
If he thinks that marriage means nothing, then he should be willing to go through that "meaningless" ceremony for your sake. If he is not willing to do that, when it means so much to you, then he is less committed to you than you think. :(
You both need to understand that, for Catholics, marriage is permanent and faithful - no divorce, no cheating - and that it involves being open to having children; that artificial birth control is not allowed; and that Natural Family Planning is only allowed for spacing children, not for preventing them. (NFP is much more than the "rhythm method" now, and can also be used to make children.)
If he won't agree to that, then you do not want to marry him. Look around on the forums, and read the posts about the misery of people in "mixed" marriages.
With concern and caring,
Thank you for your kind words and advice. I will put a lot of thought into this as whilst many catholic traditions and beliefs mirror my own I do not want children nor can I have them whilst taking the medication I am currently on for another issue.