Thank you to all of you who have replied. I suppose you would like to know what came of this. I did contact her last week. We had a short back-and-forth, and we haven’t conversed since. It seems I was more interested in her than she was in me. She probably gave me her number so as not to let me down. I’m fine with that because she was respectful and friendly in our exchange, and I feel that our conversations helped each of us to grow a little closer to God.
Mikeeh, I appreciate your encouragement and advice. Thank you. However, there are a few points that I disagree with.
Strictly speaking, yes, anybody who is not married or consecrated to religious life is single. “In a relationship” is a step in the discernment process toward marriage where we are to answer the question “Is he/she the spouse God has called me to?” I think of it like this: “in a relationship” is to marriage as “in the seminary” is to the priesthood. A man in the seminary is not allowed to date while he is discerning the priesthood. Just the same, one who is in a relationship should not see other guys/girls while discerning marriage to the boyfriend/girlfriend.
Furthermore, I don’t agree with this mentality because it pushes those who are in a relationship to get married soon. There is nothing wrong with (in fact, I think it is laudable) spending years in marital discernment (i.e. “in a relationship”). If the decision to get married is rushed, a couple may get married without really knowing whether it is truly God’s will. It is very possible to spend years in a chaste relationship before ascertaining that God’s will for the couple is Matrimony.
Unfortunately, this is probably true of secular society today. But I hope this is not true of Catholic couples you know.
This is true, one may find that God has not called them to Matrimony with their boyfriend/girlfriend at any point of the discernment process, even the night before the wedding. But I think it is respectful to let a girl decide that on her own before actively pursuing her.