Hi guys, my dh and I are in disagreement about a couple of big issues in our lives.
#1 I want another baby–baby #7. He doesn’t (ever, he says)
This is mostly my fault, I think, because life is too chaotic. I’m not such a great housekeeper. And, I’m not naturally orderly. I think he is feeling the lack of order. Plus, he gets a lot of flack from his mother (to whom we live adjacent) and from the guys at work and from guys he runs around with in his archery league. And, I’m not a very nice pregnant lady :o . I just get so tired.
#2 I want a new house. Our current house is rather run down and a little small for our family. His objection is that we can’t afford a bigger house unless we move to a subdivision. And, as a former farmboy, he would be miserable in a tightly ordered neighborhood. The other option is to add-on. This would be fine with me, but he puts me off, saying we can’t afford that either. I would be happier if we could at least do some remodelling or finish the “dungeon” basement, but he doesn’t want to do that either. Basically, he wants to come home from work and relax and not mess with the house.
If* anyone remembers my dryer thread, you might have an idea of how resistent my dh is to doing handiwork in the house. :rolleyes*:
I’m not sure if I’m looking for sympathy or advice. But, I’m becoming resentful about both desires being unfulfilled. And, I feel like what I want doesn’t matter.
How do you handle these types of major life choices when you and your spouse are in conflict?