Oh leonie, you and are are cosmic twins. I could’ve written your post two years ago. BEGGED for another baby but DH flatly refused to consider it. We fought about it all the time… mostly me crying & begging… and him standing his ground.
As it turned out, God was on my side because when we LEAST expected it… he gave us our little AvaBava. I love that baby to bits… but gosh, she’s ALOT of work. Some of my husband’s reasons why we didn’t need another baby were sort of true … we don’t have alot of $ - our house is small - we’re getting old AND we’re tired. Rather than bugging your husband, maybe you could bug God… if He really wants you to have another baby, you will… despite your husband’s opinion. And yes, I think it’s totally normal to desire a baby. I will ALWAYS desire more babies…tired or not. I am certain when I’m 80 years old and I find out my granddaughter is expecting I’ll totally be like, “Darn! Wish I was too!”
OK - about the house. Our husbands are somewhat similar. My husband will start the remodel project… but it will be 10 messy dust filled years in the works. What do we do? I suppose try to keep our houses, even if they are small, in order so we’re not overtaken by all the “stuff” that comes with having a big family. When I’m feeling like poor old me in this little house an episode of Little House on the Prarie … espeically in the later years when they adopted two kids… ALL those kids in a small 3 room house - that makes me feel like if they could do it (and yes, it’s just a TV show… but still - based on reality) so can I. I think since we can’t change our husbands, or our living situations, all we can change is our attitude about it. I think Satan would LOVE us to spend our days all grumbly over what isn’t… We can’t let him steal our joy!
This is my life’s motto: Happiness isn’t getting what you want … it’s wanting what you’ve got.
I haven’t got that down yet… but I’m trying.
Here’s a ((HUG))… you have my sympathy.