My husband and I are finally taking the plunge and are going to start NFP. We conceived our first child(now 3) very easily, but the pregnancy and delivery were awful. I have an autoimmune disease and a family history of difficult deliveries that did end in the death of the children and near death of the moms(my grandmother & mother), not to mention them not being able to conceive easily, if they could again at all.
I ended up having an emergency C-section and by the grace of God we both survived(literally-all the doctors and nurses thought we were goners). Unfortunately, because I have Crohn's, the C-section was a double whammy on my body. People with autoimmune diseases do not heal well, and the fact that I was operated on in the area of my body that is the sickest made the recovery endless and very painful. I will admit, I fell into a depression because it was so hard to be a mom and wife due to the length of healing and my Crohns symptoms. Any future children will have to be planned c-sections, which clearly raises a concern, and my doctor did strongly advise against further pregnancies due to my condition and the situation(take it for what it is- I'm just passing on what was said).
So for the past 3 years we've toyed with the thought NFP, but deciding against it out of fear and feeling overwhelmed. After much prayer, we're ready to take the plunge. We really do want more children, but as we're still nervous, we really do need to pray more about it. In the meantime we don't want to live in sin any longer(we use condoms).
NFP seems very overwhelming and I do worry that I'll just become too stressed which in turn will make my Crohn's worse. I'm trying to have an open mind and be positive, so any advice or tips from those who practice NFP is helpful.
Also- we are studying at home as we don't have time to go to a class(there aren't any close enough to us), and it will be the Sympto-Thermal Method (STM).
Thanks so much for any advice. We really want this to work out.